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CONCLUSION

We have established throughout this discussion that the practice of oral sex by many young people is not in itself a cultural disease.

Just as the alcoholic attempts to cure his insecurity by drinking, so the new "oral cultist"-fed by an extremely oral conscious advertising industry-attempts to solve the problems inherent in an overpopulated and incredibly alienated environment. As the alcoholic creates new problems for himself by drinking, so the new wave "sexaholic" will inevitably create problems, some of which we have touched upon in this report, i.e., the rising venereal disease rate.

In addition to the V.D. problem, sexual freedom also tends to depersonalize sexual experience. This problem arose in one form or another in practically every case examined in this study. However, for the most part, oral practices among the young have served the valuable function of tearing away old and psychologically crippling taboos, allowing many to experience-probably for the first time in our culture-a guilt-free and joyful approach to mature sexual relations. Remarking on this aspect of the sexual revolution, Albert Ellis observes in his and Albert Arbarbanel's 'Encyclopedia of Sexual Behavior:

As we enter the closing phases of the twentieth century, a curious semireversal of the Eastern and Western attitudes toward coitus seems to be taking place. At least among the highly educated, intelligent, and widely read classes of English-speaking society, an unusually liberal attitude toward extravaginal coital relations has been and is still spreading: so that it may be confidently predicted that by the close of the present century an individual in these classes will be considered neurotically inhibited and to some degree sexually deviant if he does not at times spontaneously and joyfully engage in all forms of heterosexual coitus, vaginal as well as non-vaginal.

Perhaps Ellis is correct when he concludes that we are entering a new sexual era; this "new morality" will demand and, indeed, reward promiscuous behavior rather than condemn and victimize the sexual libertine. However, we feel that this kind of conclusion is a bit premature. Social mores, styles of fashion and philosophy have a habit of swinging back and forth in waves of revolution and reaction. A young person today, fighting for unrestrained sexual freedom as well as liberal drug and draft laws, may be considered hopelessly degenerate, frivolous or out-of-date by a future generation heaving in the throes of some puritanical or religious frenzy.

But, until that hypothetical generation comes along (so far, no one is predicting that it will) the game is still stimulation, and oral stimulation seems to be the most preferred game among the under-thirty players. In our analysis of the various psychological and social aspects of oral sex, we must not overlook the physical.

For both male and female, the genital kiss has provided an intense source of sexual pleasure, a pleasure which had captivated literary genius and imagination since the beginning of history. Books dealing with the-subject of sexual technique from ancient times to the present extol the delights that this form of lovemaking affords. Whether it be the Kama Sutra or Ideal Marriage, the theme remains the same-that of obtaining for active and passive partners alike the utmost in sensual gratification. In this activity more than any other, man is able to transcend for the moment the problems of his world; to give without motive and to receive in the same way the most intimate physical closeness possible. Theodoor Van De Velde puts it this way:

In this more evolved and richer harmony of relationship, the use and enjoyment of genital stimulation and the genital kiss will depend wholly on inclination, temperament, individual sensibility and practice of both partners. They may be enjoyed alternately or sometimes simultaneously.

For in every form of sport or art, every adept makes full use of every aspect and possibility, in order to perfect and vary his achievement. He neglects neither the grand effects nor the delicate details. And so, how should it be otherwise in the art of love which is the richest and subtlest of all?